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David Mania aka @daviemania @daviemaniaa @davidmaniaa. My Dreams of School.

I am a dreamer, no doubt, but my dreams of school are the most interesting by far. My dreams of school, especially secondary school, are both scary but also relieving when I wake up and realize I cleared school. I went to high school at Kagumo High School in Nyeri, Kenya and it was a very interesting four years at the school. There were the haters, the dope boys, nerds, and guys like me who were just there to get done, get good grades, and move on to life as an adult. I was happy at Kagumo and I am very grateful for the education I got there, both in books and also in life. I am also very grateful to all my teachers who held my hand all through the four years and all my other teachers in all levels of education. They made me who I am and taught me invaluable lessons and for that I say, Thank You and God Bless!

The Haters

Yes, Kagumo High School had all the characters you would find in a normal society, including the crazies. I come from Nyeri, it is my home and those students who came from the city, Nairobi, would not let us ‘ushago’ (rural) boys have a break. They would always brag about being from the city or coming from well-off families. Their kind of bragging was the kind where they would feel like such big people like so important and all, leaving the rest of us feeling a little demoralized and demeaned or intimidated. The good news is that we survived them and to be frank, outdid them by far in academics. The crazies, which made a good number of them, ended up scoring Ds and C-s while we who were looked down upon ended up with As, A-s, and B+s. We made it and I pray that everyone regardless of their grade, is doing well in life. The haters, as they say, are just admirers who don’t want to admit it.

The Ones We Lost

Unfortunately, as life progresses, we have lost some of those we went to school with. It is so heartbreaking and I feel so bad that some of those we shared high school and even overall school memories with have left us. We pray that their souls Rest in Eternal Peace and it is such a huge loss for all of us and even the country as a whole. Some of the people we lost were guys and gals who would have ended up becoming business magnates and big tech or pharma CEOs. We pray that God comforts their families and that their memories are a blessing. We will never forget them and we will always do our best to make society better and live our best lives in their honor.

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The Geniuses/Nerds

The most interesting lot for me was the geniuses. Actually, some of the guys we ended up going to the same university with and becoming friends after high school, were mostly the nerds. These are guys who will chop up scores of complicated textbooks and end up outsmarting everyone in exams. They are my friends these ones and are super nerdy. These guys would seem like they do not read or try but end up doing remarkably well in academics. I don’t know if I am a nerd but the geniuses for me are always the most intriguing guys to have a conversation with. You can imagine how interesting it was to discuss quantum physics with them or the concept and popularity of Bitcoin. These guys are going to do great things in life and if they work as hard as they party, then the world is definitely going to become a better place. I don’t have my pictures from high school, so we’ll have to work with pictures from my graduation from university. University was a whole other ball game, and that’s a story for another day. Stay tuned.

David Mania aka @daviemania @daviemaniaa @davidmaniaa
I wouldn’t call myself a nerd, but even a spade wouldn’t call itself a spoon.

Canes, Canes, and Canes

Yes, we were caned in high school. Not me particularly, well, rarely, but our teachers rarely missed a chance or opportunity to cane our bottoms. And I don’t mean oh, a few light canes with slims sticks. I mean thorough caning, even with broomsticks or gas pipes. It was this bad and it brought the non-crazies amongst us to good discipline. The crazies, on the other hand, would end up even being beaten physically, something that seemed to not work as they would act even more delinquent. I was and believe, still am a good boy and the times I was caned were countable. I even had a short spell as a class prefect, thanks to my English teacher, so yeah, I was among the more disciplined ones.

Food

I loved the food in high school. Well, not loved loved but I kind of factored in the scale of each cook and divided that by the number of students, ending up with decent meals for all of us. We ate rice, ugali (a local maize/corn meal), and githeri (a mix of beans and maize). I loved it. I mean I have never up to this day, understood why some of the kids would miss meals. The city kids, especially, would snub meals for days and that to me felt like such a waste. I attended almost all my meals and enjoyed the food thoroughly. I guess that’s why I passed my exams, I was eating well and obtaining all the energy needed to study and perform well. On the other hand, maybe that’s why the city kids weren’t that good performing, they often survived on snacks and the seemingly ‘better’ meals to them. These kids were so picky I wonder whether they survive on pizza and soda nowadays. I wouldn’t be surprised if they do. They were so fond of picnicking when parents and family visited. I hope they still do.

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Family

Went to school with a relative or two. Kind of a strange awkward thing but it was overall good. Having family in school is kind of weird but can be very beneficial if you are close to them. If not, then it’s a little bit awkward and sometimes you wish you would or they would defend you more. All in all, if it can be avoided, maybe opt to go to different schools. If not, then appreciate the kinship and try and support each other as best as possible. The problem comes in when they don’t like your friends or you don’t like theirs. The way to deal with is to treat it like the mall. Pick from their friends the ones you like, and do not get bothered by those you don’t. As they say, that’s that and it is what it is.

Entertainment

So, as is the custom in Kenya at least, on the weekends there is ‘entertainment’, which is an afternoon where you students get to watch a movie or play some music. Mind you, phones, mp3 players, and any electrical devices were prohibited and there was no TV on a daily basis in my high school. Since I took computer studies, I got to see screens more than most of the students but still, that was in a controlled environment. Even so, knowing what I know about a sedentary lifestyle, I see the purpose of restricting TV content consumption only to the weekend and only for a few hours. I loved entertainment. I secretly wanted to be the entertainment captain but unfortunately, it did not happen.

My Dreams of School.
If I had my way and knowing myself today, I should have been the entertainment captain. Unfortunately, I wasn’t. That is how much I loved entertainment.

I remember at nearly 1 PM, the time entertainment started, we would already have our seat in hands itching to rush them to the entertainment hall and ‘book’ spots close to the TV. It also kind of showed patriarchy in work as those who were in the higher classes would sit close to the TV and those in the lower classes the furthest. This showed a weird hierarchical system and I think someone needs to do a social experiment on why this is so. The same went for assemblies, maybe the higher classes sit close to the stage to get more of the points being relayed. We will never know. Not to mention the ‘famous‘ ones.

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Patriarchal Hierarchy

One of the most annoying things in high school was the ‘hierarchical’ and patriarchal system that played out in local student leadership circles. There was so much nonsense with those who got to be prefects of something or ‘captains’ as they were called. In my early years in high school, these ‘captains’ would slap people or outright beat them when crossed or when one didn’t do what’s right. It defeats me to this day what justified such wrongful behavior, all in the name of being a captain. To me, these guys were captains of nothing, they were just kids who got an opportunity to mistreat others, even as some did what they were tasked to do rightfully and with respect. to the ‘rights’ of others.

My Dreams of School.
I have always been a character, even in high school.

One of them slapped me in Form One for breaking the air. I probably deserved it but that was no way to treat someone. I remember that slap being so fast I only heard it sound, only to realize it happened. It wasn’t even painful, just lightning-fast, and sounded like one of those wooden boards used to start a race in athletics. Some of these captains are today guys running small businesses, while the lower classes students who got most of the mistreatment, or what I would call bullying, have founded their own companies.

Read The Liberation of Women and What It Means for Patriarchy article below.

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Bullying

Yes, the ugly topic has reared its head. Bullying was a reality when I first joined but was clamped down upon by the time of leaving. I remember being told to fight with one of my peers and we actually did fight, all to entertain the boys in the higher classes. Looking back, such nonsense seems to me like what would happen in prison but I am glad it was drawn down and hopefully exterminated altogether. The bullies would ask someone to do stupid and nonsensical things such as ‘sing to a tree until it blushes’, ‘pretend you have stepped on a banana peel and slide’, or ‘wash my clothes and bedsheets because I am bigger than you and more ‘senior’.’ We survived it, however, and we hope those kids that were at the forefront of such nonsense became mention-worthy people in life. I am still disgusted to this day by the idea that just because one is in the lower classes and you are in the higher classes, you think you have a right to mistreat them.

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https://maniainc.com/home/culture/bullying/

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‘War’

One of my most memorable and funniest moments in high school was when in Form Two, the guys from Form Three and Form Four went to ‘war’. To clarify, the high school system started from Form One to Form Four with Form One as the lowest and entry class and Form Four as the highest and graduation class. The ‘war’ in question was the culmination of insults and a kind of wrong rubbing of each other’s shoulders between the two levels. Each ‘form’ had several streams and you can imagine tens or even hundreds of students going to ‘war’. These conflicts would even lead one level to tell the other not to attend entertainment or even outright chase them from the entertainment hall. There was a kind of resistance to the hierarchical system in school, and the class ahead of ours, Form Three, thought they could, and actually took Form Four on in a physical fight. From where I was standing, I remember seeing the scene resemble one of ‘Game of Thrones’ where the Form 3s and Form 4s clashed as knights or soldiers did in medieval times. Like in a nation-state, there was so much anxiety and tension leading up to the ‘war’. Rumors were going around that it would go down, and we from the lower classes felt like we were walking a very thin line. In a way, we were fighting anxiety.

My Dreams of School.
The view from the rooftop of one of the hostels on campus in university. That was my spot for getting some air and unwinding. Those roofing tiles were medieval.

Short Success

The students from both sides formed a line on one side and surged forward like an army would in medieval times when the most dangerous weapons were swords and took on each other. I remember us cracking up after one of the shortest Form 3s shot up and beat a Form 4 with a fly kick. Those moments were hilarious and those memories are the funniest and most intriguing I have of high school. At the time, the Form Three block was just before the Form Four one and there were large windows where, even seated, Form 3s could clearly see Form Fours. The distance between the two blocks was also a few meters and both sides would frequently hurl insults at one another through the windows or in the dining hall. However, war came and the Form 3s did impressively well.

Smaller ‘War’

I also remember a smaller ‘war’ in our Form One class when a student was thrashed for saying something stupid. The lights were shut off and I remember seeing a geometrical set glimmer in the little light left, shining with the name of the set, Oxford Geometrical Set, illuminated in a legible way as it flew to hit the student. He was injured, unfortunately, and you can imagine the kind of siege the class went into when the captains arrived. Luckily, I wasn’t among the offenders, and one captain, Sammy, Lord bless him, got me out of trouble. I thank Sammy because he took me off some sticky situations. He was a cool guy. I mean, the guy could breakdance despite typically being so calm and collected. God bless him.

Suspensions

I never went on a suspension and I am very grateful for that. Lord knows I would have been punished thoroughly by my parents. However, a good number of the crazies frequently went on suspension due to alcohol or drug abuse, and so on. It is hard to imagine that at the time some students were even smoking marijuana or cigarettes and taking alcohol. We condemn drug and alcohol abuse and we pray that anyone in addiction gets the help they need. Some kids were also suspended due to a myriad of reasons. Maybe someone said something wrong to a teacher or maybe they sneaked in something they shouldn’t like a phone to school, or brought alcohol from a school trip, and so on.

Trips

I loved school trips, or what we called ‘funkiez’. These were golden opportunities to get out of school and miss class while everyone else was undergoing the routine of everyday schooling. Mind you, my school was a boys-only boarding school and funkiez were a good opportunity to met girls from other schools and ‘socialize’. I even remember being in a scuffle with other members of the Scout’s Movement, of which I was proudly a member, after they tried to bring in corruption and impunity in matters of attendance and who had a right to go on a school trip with the movement.

My Dreams of School.
I looked this good even during trips in high school. I wish we had the option to wear suits back then. I know the ladies would have loved it!

The right way to do things was that those who attended marching practice and were active members were the ones to be considered first for the school trip. Our school bus, another pride of the school, had a capacity of 60 and mostly only 60 would get to go on a school trip. All you need to know is that I stood up against the corruption and impunity and ensured that things were made right, a move that invited a lot of hate. I forgive those kids, however, and I wish them the best. As a Scout, one was also allowed to wear Scout’s Movement uniform on assembly days and I loved that uniform because it was brown and rarely seemed dirty, unlike our white shirts for the school uniform, grey pants, and blue sweater. I remember we would wash our trip clothes the day before the trip and put them under our mattresses to dry, sleep on them and wake up super early to wear them, even if wet, to look our best during the trip. I miss those days.

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Sleep

Nothing was as precious in school as some time to sleep. Sleep happened in class and the dormitories. I remember that Saturday was the day to do some cleaning and most of us never missed the opportunity to oversleep or take a few moments longer under the blankets. We were slated to wake up a little bit later on the weekends, and I mean at 6 and not before 5, and many would miss breakfast at 6 on the weekends just to sleep. I rarely missed breakfast but right after, if there was sleep to be slept then the necessary happened. Teachers would, however, pass by the dormitories to ensure everyone was cleaning and you can imagine sleeping restlessly knowing that a teacher would find you and give you a punishment or cane you. Saturday was also inspection day and we would clean up everything, including dormitories, classes, the school compound, and ourselves, and wait for the teachers to come and inspect. Even not cutting your nails or lacking a handkerchief would get you in trouble, such discipline.

My Dreams of School.
Funny how I don’t get much sleep nowadays. Back in high school, sleep seemed like such an important and huge thing. Nowadays, I am content not having any.

Music

Of the things that school and Kagumo gave me, it gave me music. I will forever be grateful to our music teachers and Lord knows they fueled the music spark in me that was ignited in primary school. God bless my music teacher in primary school! At both levels, I was in the choir and the experience for me is my most precious and most valued of all my years of being in school, even at university. The high school choir did amazingly well and we advanced to the nationals in the music festivals a few times. I remember even being among the less than 10 Form Four’s that went to the nationals for the music festival that year, and I will always be very grateful for the opportunity. To this day, the songs we sang with the choir are some of my favorites and I can’t wait to release music and pay homage to our music teachers, the choir, and the gift that they let me nurture. I am eternally grateful and may God bless them abundantly. There is music coming very soon so please stay tuned and ‘hallar’ (reach out) at me through my social media.

Read the Rogue Music article below.

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Thank You!

I am very grateful to Kagumo High School especially because they came to my dad’s funeral. The school organized a full bus of my classmates to attend the funeral and even made donations to us. Me and my family will always be eternally grateful for the love and support and I pray that one day I get the opportunity to support the school in whatever way I can. Asanteni Sana Kagumo (thank you very much) and especially my teachers. You were the best and thank you so much for educating us and teaching us how to be our best selves. I salute you and I will always be eternally grateful for your guidance and support. God bless! Mungu awabariki na awapee Maisha marefu yenye Neema na Baraka (God bless you and may He give you a long life full of grace and blessings).

My Dreams of School.
High school taught me how to shine my shoes, such an invaluable lesson for a man. As they say, cleanliness is next to godliness.

Thank you also to Kagumo High School itself, and my fellow students. You guys are still some of the most kind, intelligent, and interesting people I have ever known, and I want to say Thank You for supporting me and each other to go through high school and get a quality education. You created a conducive environment for learning and I wish each and every one of you the very best in life. I remember some of my good friends such as Moses, Joel, and Brian. You can even see their names are from the Bible. Such great young Kenyans. I forgive anyone who may have wronged me and ask for forgiveness from anyone I may have wronged. Asanteni sana (thank you so much) my brothers and God bless! My experience in Kagumo was good and I am very grateful. Asanteni (thank you).

Thank You, Mama!

Above all, I thank my parents, my mom, and my late dad, may his soul Rest in Eternal Peace, and my family. I am eternally grateful for their support. I owe everything to you all. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I pray to be half as good a parent as you were and are. You are my biggest blessing. God Bless! Thank you for supporting me before, during, and after my education. Your support means the world to me. I am very very grateful and I hope to make you proud.

Read the Dad article below.

Dad

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Life

‘Strive to Succeed’

I am happy to have been a student of Kaggz, which was the nickname of our school, and I feel honored to be an alumnus. Kagumo taught me life and I am grateful for that. It was fun, challenging, hilarious, motivating, and an overall good lesson on life, working with others, and striving to succeed (the school motto). Kagumo taught me this ‘fine’ English that you are reading today and I would not do justice if I did not credit my English teachers Ms. Angela and Mr. Karuiru for teaching me all the intricacies of the language. I am very grateful and may God bless you.

My Dreams of School.
I am so grateful for all my teachers in all my levels of education. God bless them. They made me who I am.

Life is good and I went on to university and graduated with a good mark. I am happy because I got the opportunity to follow one of my passions, writing, and even another, music, not forgetting photography, and I believe that my experience in high school and even in all other levels of education was key to who I am today. That said, I also want to pass my thanks to all my teachers at all other levels. God bless you and I am very grateful for your guidance and support. I also want to thank my fellow students at all levels. You all supported me as I hope I supported you, and I am very grateful to have known you and been in the same level, class, or school with you. You taught me so much and I wish you all the very best in life. God bless and Godspeed.

Read the David Mania Photography article below.

David Mania Photography

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‘Special Ones’

I also want to appreciate my friends from other schools. I love you all and I ache for those we have lost. May their souls Rest in Eternal Peace. They were queens and kings and we will never forget them. Those that are still here, especially the ladies, you know I love you. I do. 100 percent. God bless! I wish you all the best in everything you do and thank you for being there and supporting me. I pray to support you too in every way I can. Nawapenda Sana (I love you all so much). I love you STL. So much. <3 You share a name with my mom and you went to the same school as her. You are special to me and I pray thanking God every day that I met, have known, and grew to love you. I am so elated and grateful for you. A hunnid (100)!

David Mania aka @daviemania @daviemaniaa @davidmaniaa
I will never forget the people I went to school with, especially those I loved and still love, the ‘special ones’.

Much love to you too ‘Wa Babaa’. My ‘school wives’ as I called them warmed my heart so much when I was in high school, and they still do to this day. I feel so blessed to have met and known you and despite how much life changes or what happens, know that I am here and I will always love you 100! I remember us sending each other ‘romantic letters’ to our ‘special ones’ in high school and Lord knows I miss communication via letters. Big shout out also to my brothers Derrick, Caleb, and Felix. These are my people and have been such a blessing. God bless you all and your families. Mi Casa Su Casa (my house is your house) and wherever life takes us, you have a brother in me. God Bless!

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My Epic Heartbreak

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My Dreams

My dreams of school are sometimes shocking when I am asleep and dreaming thinking that I am yet to clear school. A teacher once told us you don’t finish school, you cannot stop learning, but you clear it. The good thing, however, is that I feel very happy and relieved when I realize that I did clear school and that I am now a man chasing his dreams in life. I want to assure everyone in school right now that it will come to an end, and whatever happens therein, all that is noise, and all that matters is that you clear and graduate with a good grade. This is invaluable advice from my English teacher and I am very grateful he told us that. I remember him saying that I was a letdown when he found me reading a Chemistry book for a lunchtime test during his English class and to be honest, I feel bad and haunted by the statement. However, like with everyone else, I am flawed. Yes, I know. I am flawed and I do my best every day to not let down those who care about me and love me. Yeah, devilishly handsome doesn’t always mean devilishly good.

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Education is Key

I am very grateful for my education and I pray that all children get a chance to get an education and to go to a wonderful school such as Kagumo for a wholesome and all-around quality educational experience. If you are in school, study hard, do your best, and God bless you. Always remember, do not be too hard on yourself. Education can be, but it is not everything. Do your thing, do your best and try and have fun. Enjoy high school or the level that you are in because it does not last forever. You will come to find out that being an adult is much much tougher. As such, have fun while you are still in school and stop being gloomy about having the opportunity, support, and environment to educate yourself and become a better person.

David Mania aka @daviemania @daviemaniaa @davidmaniaa
Education is key! No matter how tough it gets, it is very important.

Trust me, your future is much better with a good education. Ask me, I would know, I see many fruits of my education every day. I am very grateful and feel blessed for my education. Doesn’t mean you won’t do well if you didn’t get one, however. Some of the top CEOs in the world quit education. Don’t. You are not in the particular environment or set of circumstances they were in. It is mathematically impossible to have lived their life. Clear your education then go from there. You owe that much to yourself.

Devilishly Handsome

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David Mania (@daviemania on Instagram)

I don’t mean to blow my horn but I know that I look good and it is funny that sometimes others don’t know how to handle it. For the guys, it’s almost shocking how this guy looks and some will even feel a little weird for acknowledging it. For the girls, they will either fall hands down deeply in love or not want anything to do with a man of such beauty. I know I am devilishly handsome and I want to say it has nothing to do with the devil. It is a blessing from God. Also, it’s not that big a thing.

We are all beautifully and wonderfully made and we are all made in the image and likeness of God. As such, we are all very handsome and very beautiful and this is the message I want to relay to you. The way you look doesn’t really matter and you don’t need good looks to find love, to love yourself, or to be loved by others. My name is David Mania and this is a story of why ‘handsome’ isn’t a ticket to glory. Devilishly handsome doesn’t cut me any corners.

Acknowledging Your Own Beauty or Handsomeness

I do not go out there saying I am handsome or devilishly handsome but I know I look good. It is never mentioned and others rarely mention it. The guys don’t say it. My dude friends aren’t like “oh bruh, wewe ni mhandsome” or you are handsome. No. The guys are mostly too homophobic or afraid of weirdness, but the real ones acknowledge. The girls won’t say it. They wouldn’t dare. They think that uttering the word “handsome” is like giving me an atomic bomb to blow their hearts away. They act like I am not devilishly handsome and it is quite hilarious to see them grapple with what to do about it.

David Mania (@daviemaniaa on Twitter). Devilishly Handsome.
Learn to acknowledge that you are beautiful or handsome.

They love me and for the most part, I love them too. I bet my exes will admit that losing the boy wasn’t easy. Respectfully, it wasn’t easy for me too and everyone I have known and loved and every one to me is very beautiful and yes, handsome too. Looks are like icing on the cake. It can be as little or as much but what matters is what the cake is. i.e. who you are and what you stand for or do not stand for. As such, even as I acknowledge I look good and some would or I would define that as handsome, this is by no means a beating of my chest.

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Beauty with Grace Wanjiku

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I am Not Devilishly Handsome to Everyone

I may be devilishly handsome to some and ugly to others. It is all a matter of perspective. For instance, I may find a girl to be drop-dead gorgeous and a friend may find her to be just averagely beautiful. Again, I want to denounce that. You are as beautiful and as handsome as hell. Own that, and love you for who you are. Even if you have a skin problem or a scar or have burnt some of your face. I want you to know that you are so beautiful and so handsome that the mirror sometimes blushes when it sees you.

Ultra Black was a photoshoot to celebrate  love, loss, and even moving on and finding peace. David Mania is an Upcoming Musician and blogger. He is a lover of life and music. He enjoys writing and is very excited to share his journey with you. Follow us @daviemania
Not everyone will think you look good or that you are handsome or beautiful. Let those that do know they are appreciated and those that don’t can mind their own beauty.

Physical beauty or handsomeness is just superficial and it should not mean much. The same goes for your body type or your physical build. I think of that as just hardware. You could have the best and biggest hardware but have such poor software i.e. who you are on the inside, that it is just a bad system or a let-down, if I may. As such, work on not only building how you look and how your body is but also work on who you are. The software as I call it is what is most important. Remember that. Love yourself regardless of what others think. That is why I wrote a letter to myself.

Read the A Letter to Myself article below.

A Letter to Myself

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The Conundrum of Power

Ladies will treat a devilishly handsome boy like me as not handsome in the hope that I do not get full of myself. I understand it and respect that to them, it feels like giving up power. The same goes for when I tell a girl that she is beautiful. It validates her and she will sometimes become too proud or act indifferent just for the mere fact that I uttered the word. It is unfortunate that when you are told that you are beautiful or handsome that could translate to pride. I want to denounce that. Do not act like you are too good just because you have been appreciated. I feel like most times when I tell or when a guy tells a girl she is “beautiful”, it is often not meant as it sounds like and the guy would probably be just simping i.e. acting in a certain way and saying that in search of something in return.

Ultra Black was a photoshoot to celebrate  love, loss, and even moving on and finding peace. David Mania is an Upcoming Musician and blogger. He is a lover of life and music. He enjoys writing and is very excited to share his journey with you. Follow us @daviemania
You are only as beautiful or handsome as you think you are. The power to be is your own.

As such, the conundrum of power, like in boys and power, when it comes to physical appearance is the difficulty in acting that the object of that kind of appreciation or affection develops out of the appreciation. Essentially, telling someone that they are beautiful or handsome could lead them to develop pride and I would say that, sometimes, it is better not to say it or at least to say it very rarely. I don’t think anyone wants to be with someone who thinks they are extremely beautiful or even to make someone feel that they are that beautiful. This is true for the ladies, she will treat you wrong if you make her feel that she is too beautiful or too irreplaceable. Forgive me for saying it but if you become too self-important then it is likely that you may treat the other person wrong. It may be fitting but it is by no means proper.

Read the Boys and Power article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/social-justice/boys-and-power/

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Self-Esteem

Facial appearances have a lot to do with self-esteem and according to me, I don’t think that that should be the case. Even as others may not see it, you know who you are inside and if you know that that is good, then you should have self-esteem and pride in knowing that you’re good enough. You should love yourself thoroughly regardless of how you appear or look on the outside. Your self-esteem should have nothing to do with your physical or facial appearance. Appreciate yourself for who you are inside, and let how you look on the outside be an added advantage or what I am calling ‘icing on the cake’. We are all such wonderful and beautiful beings and knowing that will save you a lot of trouble when it comes to your self-esteem and even your self-respect. Unfortunately, some will disrespect themselves because they think they are not beautiful and sometimes when seeking fame at whatever cost.

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https://maniaincnews.com/home/pop-culture/fame-at-whatever-cost/

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Melanin is Everything!

Respect that you are fearfully and wonderfully made and even as you may feel that you do not look as good as you want, do not disrespect yourself. Most times people will try and change how they look much to the detriment of their inherent beauty or handsomeness. It is true that if you go changing something about your physical appearance, you are likely to ruin what is already there. Think of Michael Jackson and his plastic surgery. Mike ruined his handsome black skin only to get plastic skin as a replacement. Why on earth would you go get a procedure literally called ‘plastic’ surgery? Love you. Love yours.

David Mania (@daviemania on Instagram). Devilishly Handsome.
Your black skin is beautiful. Your complexion is to die for. Your melanin is everything!

Love your black skin. Even when being black means being discriminated against, love your black skin! I know you may be being called names like the N-word but please love you and love how you look. Love your African heritage, be ultra black, and know that melanin is beautiful. That chocolate dark skin is everything, my girl! It is. Your nappy hair or your curls are everything. Everything! In Kenya, we say, “jipende” which directly translates to love yourself. I want you to know that you are beautiful and devilishly handsome, and it would be such a loss and so unfortunate that you could be looking down on yourself out of a false sense of not looking good or good enough.

Read the Ultra Black article below.

Ultra Black

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Never Look Down on Others

Never look down on others. You could be a supermodel or be on a slew of the top fashion magazines but never look down on others because you think you look better or more beautiful or more handsome. The same goes for me. Devilishly handsome never interferes with or appears in the equation of how I relate with or treat others. Your beauty or handsomeness is a gift from God and just like it was given, it can be taken away. Beware of that. Let’s learn to love ourselves and how we look but we should not and can not allow that to make us feel like we are better.

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How good you look is no excuse for looking down on others.

When someone treats me like anyone else I do not feel offended at all. I appreciate that they understand looks are just looks and I respect them for realizing that. I know that even if I tell them they are beautiful they won’t act indifferent. It tells me that they get that looks are just looks and I feel that how we both look won’t get in the way of, or interfere with how we relate with one another. You look good and you are beautiful or handsome as hell! Yes. You are literally that good-looking. I mean, have you seen yourself?

A Letter to Myself

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David Mania (@daviemania on Instagram). A Letter to Myself.

Hello, my boy. How are you doing? I always ask you if you are happy because to me, your happiness is my first priority. I could have been anyone in this world, I could have been extremely rich or very poor, I could have been good or bad? Handsome or not handsome? I could have been nice or not nice but I pray thanking God every day that I am you. My life and me being you has been a life full of adventure and even as we have had our fair share of struggles, I want you to know that I am so glad and I feel so blessed to be you. Lord knows I wouldn’t want to be someone else even if I was given the choice. I love you. I love everything about you. David Mania. I love the name. I love who you are and what you stand for. I love that you go for what you want, no matter the hurdles you may face. I love that for you, for us, we move regardless. I love that you wrote me a letter to myself.

Dreams

The last one to two years have been very tough on you my boy and I see that it has worn you down a lot. I see that you are struggling. I see that maybe you may feel that you are not where you would want to be. I feel like you are sometimes too harsh on yourself expecting too much at such a short time. I, however, do not mean to blame the situation on you and all I am saying is that give it a little bit more time. Keep working. Keep grinding and I can promise you that we will get there. God is in control and He sees you and what you do and how much you love it. As I write a letter to myself, I want you to know that your dreams are true and there are there waiting for you to be brave enough and reach out.

David Mania (@davidmaniaa on Facebook). A Letter to Myself.
All your dreams will come true, David. It’s only a matter of working hard and following your heart.

I know that you would die for your dream and I am here to tell you that I would die for it too with you. I know nobody really sees it, nobody sees your vision but I want to tell you that I do. I see it. I see it as clear as day and Lord knows I want it just as bad for you too. When you started Mania Inc., I felt like you had made such a good choice of something to pursue. Knowing that you love writing and that you have always wanted the freedom to write on what you want and what interests you, I knew and felt deeply that Mania Inc. was what you were meant to do. I love your work and thank you for writing a letter to myself.

Read the Dreams article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/motivation/dreams/

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David Mania Music

I would say the same for music. I know you burn inside with a desire to pursue music and out of the songs I have listened to so far, I want to encourage and support you. Go for it. Go get your dream. Whatever happens along the way, whether you make it or not, whether it works out or not, I will be here for you 100%. I love you. I feel so humbled that even in adversity and even when times are rough you push on and fight on. Your resilience is something that I really admire and I want to say that you have shown me strength beyond what I thought was possible and for that, I thank you.

David Mania (@maniainc on Facebook). A Letter to Myself.
David Mania is an upcoming musician and photographer.

The Lord is With You

I am eternally grateful for always being there, albeit for yourself, and pushing on and fighting on. I love you my boy and you are everything that I love in the world. You are my forte, my rock, my guardian angel. As the Bible says, even though I walk through the shadow of death, I shall not fear or cower as the Lord is with me. Davie, the Lord is with you every second of every day and He is there, guiding and protecting you. I know that times get rough and you sometimes feel that you are struggling or suffering too much but I want you to know that those are the times when the Lord is with you and carrying you. As the saying goes, one set of footsteps Lord, You were carrying me.

Love

In all our 24 years of life Davie, I have always known you to be a lover, not a fighter. You have always been someone with such a full heart and I want to say thank you for that. We have loved and even lost, especially due to distance, but you never lose the love that you have in your heart. I want to say that I know that when you love someone, there will always be space for them in your heart. I know that that love is true and I want to thank and appreciate you for having such a big heart. We have been in love a few times and in all those times, you have been a very loving and caring person and that to me is your strength. I love that you love truly and care and I really admire you for that.

Read the Love and Distance article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/lifestyle/love-and-distance/

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Heartbreaks

On the flip side, I know you have lost and have broken a few hearts and have also had your heart broken a few times. I want to tell you that I forgive you for all the hearts you have broken and I pray that you forgive yourself too. I know you have forgiven yourself and still are, and I want to tell you that you did all you could, given the circumstances. I also pray that you forgive those who broke your heart too and as for me, I forgive them fully. I hold no grudge with no one and I wish them all the best in their lives. So do I. I think the world became less emotional when it became digitalized. I feel like I miss writing letters. That’s why I wrote a letter to myself.

Read the My Epic Heartbreak article below.

My Epic Heartbreak

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Destiny

My boy, you are destined for great things. The vision I see for your future is so great that it surpasses the depth of what we believe is the realm of possibility. I love that you are artsy and a techie. I love that you adore music and sing your heart out. I love that you do not care about what others think of you. I appreciate you for not wasting your time on that. I appreciate you for who you are, how you dress, and most of all I appreciate your dreadlocks. I feel so good every time we are walking out and as people pass you by, they wonder and marvel at your style.

Read the Love Yours article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/lifestyle/love-yours/

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Devilishly Handsome

I know some look to wonder like “whoa, look at this guy” but also I want to appreciate those who love your style and are like “damn, what a guy!” I appreciate you so much. To me, you’re a style god and I want you to know that you rock. Yes. You can gerrit! The locs for me are a statement and part of who you are and your identity. I want to say that even when you may feel judged or treated with contempt because of them, do not fumble and do not change who you are to fit the prejudices and stereotypes of others. I love you just the way you are and I love the locs. Period. While writing a letter to myself, I want you to know that you are perfect just the way you are. 

Read the Retouching My Locs article below.

Retouching My Locs

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Growth

As we move to the next stage of our life, and as we make the changes that need making to get where we are going and where we need to go, I want you to know that I got you. I got you 100%. I will have your back and if chasing your dreams kills you, then we die. Yes. If it means giving it all to get where you are going, know that I will give it all too. If it kills me, I die. I will love you like hell every day and I will stand by you and the decisions you make. I will forgive you when you do wrong and I will be there for you even when things are tough. Wow. What a letter to myself!

A Letter to Myself.
Self Love is the best love.

As we write a letter to myself, I wonder whether this is you being a little narcissistic but then, I appreciate that like we are allowed and encouraged to love others, you also have a right to love yourself. I am grateful that you have the courage to be who you are, to express yourself, and to write a letter to myself. I know you get some backlash and heat when you do what you do or make a video about something or write about this or that. Haters will always hate. It’s a career for them, pitifully. Love yourself and acknowledge that you are who you are and you are beautiful. As for me, I think I am devilishly handsome.

Read the Devilishly Handsome article below.

Devilishly Handsome

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Personality

Some have even gone as far as to say that this sometimes can be a little girlish but I want to tell you that if the XX is more than the XY, then you have insight into the other side and that is an advantage. I know you are an emotional man, I respect it and do not regard you as effeminate in any way. Do not let anyone bring their homophobia unto you or try and say that you are queer or soft or whatever. As far as I know and I am concerned, you are straight as a man can be. And I know you love cake so, yeah. A topic for another day. Lastly, as we write a letter to myself, I want to tell you that I do not care what anyone says or what they do, trying to make you feel less than who you are.

Read the Caring is Not Being a Simp article below.

Caring is Not Being a Simp

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Do You, Stay True

I know that people tend to feel intimidated by you and will likely act indifferently trying to put you down. I want to tell you that I do not care about anyone whose vibe isn’t right and I will not vibe with anyone who has any negative vibes. That is trash to me and I want to tell you that you don’t need anyone, especially such kinds of people. You can do this on your own and let those who do not see the dream languish in their own mundaneness. I love you my boy and I pray to God I don’t lose you. I am eternally grateful for everything that you have done for me. Thank you for writing me a letter to myself. Thank you so much! God bless Davie and Godspeed.

Intended Bliss with Phenny Yengo

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Intended Bliss with Phenny Yengo

The ‘Intended Bliss with Phenny Yengo’ photoshoot is a David Mania Photography photoshoot I went on with Phenny Yengo, my longtime friend. Phenny and I met in school and we have been friends ever since. We linked up on a beautiful sunny day and decided to go for a photoshoot to try and create some magic. A few photos later and the ‘Intended Bliss’ photoshoot came to life. Intended Bliss speaks to intention and bliss or absolute or perfect happiness and freedom. It celebrates joy, youth, and being intentionally happy.

Bliss

The Intended Bliss photoshoot inspires one to chose to be happy and to understand that they are their own main source of happiness. To elevate, one has to free their mind, heart, and soul and open themselves up to possibility. The photoshoot turned out really well and Phenny did such a good job modeling, as did I. One of the things that I enjoy most about going on photoshoots is having my muse also take pictures of me. You can find most of my pictures on Instagram. Follow me @daviemania for more pictures.

 

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Most times photographers lock out their subjects from getting a chance to touch the camera and learn how to take photos. For me, I feel that it is important for anyone going on a photoshoot to at least get hold of the camera and learn a thing or two. It also makes me as a photographer more visible and allows the muse to take some pictures and also celebrate the photographer. You can find reviews of cameras I have used on Mania Gadgets here. We constantly review gadgets on Mania Gadgets

Perfect Happiness

The notion of bliss or perfect happiness or joy is a heavy subject. Life has its ups and downs and most time there will lack that bliss or the kind of freedom that could be termed as nearing absolute. Freedom is also quite the subject as most times we are our own impediments to freeing up and in a way, letting go. I feel like we fail to understand that life is alive and that life itself has a life of its own and evolves. The evolution of life is precious and I would even go as far as to say, sacred. A perfect example is my relationship with Phenny. Phenny is so beautiful, here are some pictures.

We have grown to be more candid about what we are going through in our lives. We have grown to talk, listen more and be there for each other as friends. Phenny listens and is keen to hear my viewpoint and also how everything is going. She has taught me to be a good listener too and to open up and not keep things bottled up. She also asks about what I do, blogging, vlogging, and content creation and how it is going. I feel that it is so important to listen to your friends and also to speak up and open up about what we are going through. Phenny also took some wonderful pictures of me. Here they are.

The Mystery of Life

No one has everything figured out in life and we are all discovering and figuring out life as we go. We are susceptible to seeing life as a maze but it is more of a journey. It has no clear end and even when it is time to move on to the afterlife, we never really know that time has come. The mystery or lack of answers in life should not be an impediment or source of anxiety, however, but a tenet of life. Not knowing is part and puzzle of living and calls for one to have faith and trust in the process or journey of life. When you can let go and step back, then you can attain freedom. The same goes for when you let go of people and things. Follow me on Instagram @daviemania for more amazing pictures.

 

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Learning to Let Go

When you allow yourself to let go, you signal to life that you are ready to open yourself up to new chances. You tell the universe that you are ready to take a chance and you invite it to bring new things and new people into your life. As a result, you evolve and become a newer and better version of yourself. Most importantly, you become a free person and open yourself up to perfect happiness or bliss. This is what I am referring to as ‘Intended Bliss’. Intended because you have let go and opened up yourself to new possibilities and bliss because you attain freedom and absolute happiness and joy as a result. Here are more pictures.

Becoming a Good Listener

Phenny is a beautiful young lady. She is fly and she is such a beautiful soul. She is someone that one can talk to and she listens. I think that that is such a wonderful gift to have. The ability to listen. Most times our relationships fail because we lack the patience, openness, and keenness to listen. We close ourselves up to new ideas, new people, and new things. We hold on so tightly to what we think we have, leaving no chance for the universe to surprise us. We try and consolidate what we think is already there and are so heartbroken when we lose something or someone. When you become a good listener, your loved ones know that you care.

Read the My Epic Heartbreak article below.

My Epic Heartbreak

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Evolution

Loss and letting go are part of evolution and I think everyone should open themselves up to evolving. After all, the evolution of man has proven that the human species is constantly evolving, albeit over thousands of years. Thinking of it this way, we are at a point between two states of evolution and that presents a momentous and precious chance to try and shape the next evolved species. We have the ability, I believe, to mold ourselves into better, happier, and freer beings. After all, a life lived in freedom is far more precious than one riddled with holding on too tight or owning things and feeling like you own people. I believe that is what causes us a lot of pain, much to the detriment of intended bliss, and the potential of mankind to be perfectly happy and free. Here are more of the amazing pictures Phenny took of me.

David Mania Photography‘s 1000 Portraits Project

The 1000 Portraits Project is still in course. We love this project and we are seeking to take 1000 portraits or portraits of 1000 people. You are welcome to join this project. Here are the ‘Intended Bliss’ photoshoot’s entries to the 1000 Portraits Project. 

Becoming

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Becoming.

The process of becoming is a very hard but rewarding process. It is also a gradual process. If someone told me before I started blogging to become a blogger knowing what I know today, there would have been a legitimate argument against it. But I became and today I enjoy creating content, albeit with a level of difficulty. My journey has more meaning out of the struggles here and there and what it takes for me to bring you another blog post or video or whatever media it is that I use to communicate. I love my job. I love my blogging and content creation and I wouldn’t give it up for the world. There is so much power in words. There is so much power in something that you create that could potentially outlive you and compound your place in the world and your view of it. You can find all the links to the entirety of my content here.

A Tough Process

Becoming for me has been a tough, tough process. My goodness. It’s one of those journeys that you have no idea what it takes when you are getting into. Every day I learn something new. I argue sometimes that I have learned more in the last year than I learned in the four before it. It is so complicated and there are so many ways to do one thing. It’s like becoming a mechanic and realizing that this car part fits so many other cars and that you can even build your own car from the ground up using parts from another car or other cars. Becoming is as such, it is fluid and non-rigid. I ask myself all the time what it takes to become a musician. I wonder what I’ll need to do and who I’ll need to be to present my art and my music in the most engaging way. Will that entail huge extravagant shows, or would a simple vlog or TikTok video connect with you enough?

Blessings in the Pain

I heard somewhere that “Kuna blessings kwa pain” meaning that there are blessings in the pain and Lord knows I have seen that this is true. Every single day I discover a new edge that I have. I discover a new talent, a new capability, a new strength, and a new point of view. I evolve. I learn new things and become better at what I do. It doesn’t mean that I won’t face challenges or struggle even more to get to my destination, one that I would argue is more of a journey even. I discover myself in all the mess of molding myself to become who I want to be. I discover my passions, my weaknesses, things I should and can do better, and better ways to deliver my content to my audience that I love. Here are some pictures from the ‘Becoming’ Photoshoot.

You can then imagine how pissed I was seeing a meme that says “Hakuna trophy ya kuteseka” or there is no trophy for suffering. This ties to the idea of a ‘fallen world’. That to have the gift of a baby, the woman has to go through the pain of birth. Looking at it this way, then it makes sense to suffer for what you love because, in the end, you will get your blessings. Pain, consequently, is the only way to get your blessings. What a world this is. Some kinds of pain cannot be put into words, like the pain of losing a baby.

Read the Losing a Baby article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/health/losing-a-baby/

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Idyllic Lifestyles and Consumerism

We live in a world where so much luxury and idyllic lifestyles are sold to us. Just hop onto Instagram and you will just need to go to the explore page or on your reels, and not even have to scroll to see this beautiful car, that beautiful mansion, or beautiful people on a trip somewhere, etc. We are sold consumerism and the idea that all of us will succeed and will become stupendously rich. As much as it irks me to admit, that is not the truth. A good number of people will fall behind. Anyone, including myself, is not guaranteed success. We just live by the mercy of God and all we can do is work hard and smart, and hope that we get where we are going. That is why I am adamant that manifesting is a scam. Follow me on Twitter @daviemaniaa for more of my tweets.

In my view, you cannot just manifest success and a good life for yourself without putting in the work. It’s like buying a chicken, putting it in a room, and hoping to find eggs the next morning. It’s pure insane. Rather than manifest, I am of the view that you should attract good energy after working hard enough to deserve or in a way, be good enough for what you want.

Read the Consumerism article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/lifestyle/consumerism/

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Energy

Energy is everything. It must be. Especially in my line of work. Energy is everything. There is nothing that speaks to who I am more than someone who is reverberating to my content. When someone calls me and says that they loved this video or that blog post, I feed off that energy. It keeps me going. It’s fuel for my soul. It motivates me to break all barriers and do everything I can to provide as much and as high-quality content as possible. Here are more pictures.

Those who know, know, and I can attest that the people I vibe with the most are those whose energy is right. It is kind of like a gift for me. I can spend just ten-twenty minutes in the same room with someone and tell you whether their energy is right or whether they are ‘woke’ enough to have a really weighty conversation with. I mean, have you ever met someone and discussed the entirety of life in just thirty minutes. Have you ever met someone and gone so deep into philosophy that you come back full circle? Then if you have you probably know that energy is everything. The earth gives us energy and it is so precious and we only have one earth, Earth Uno. That is why it is important that we reject consumerism and mitigate climate change.

Read the Earth Uno article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/sci-fi/earth-uno/

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Vibes

The way I like to see energy is by likening it to the solar system. The sun is all-powerful and provides the most energy or the most light. The moon feeds off of that and gets as much good vibes or energy as it can to those not getting the sun. The planets all position themselves in relation to the two according to their own factors, some of which they have no control over. Despite its enormity, the solar system is aware that it is not alone as does our galaxy, the Milky Way. Whoever named it just had to love milk.

Read the Sun Shining article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/nature/sun-shining/

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The solar system respects that there are solar systems and galaxies and do not interfere when those galaxies send vibes or objects their way. They vibe with each other, they vibe with themselves and with other solar systems and galaxies. That, to me, is what makes them whole. I have never heard anyone say that our solar system or galaxy is not enough. They are whole because their energy is right. The same goes for people.

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https://maniainc.com/home/culture/vibes/

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Taking a Chance

I sometimes feel so bad that out of the randomness of life I could have ended up doing something entirely different and not discovered blogging or content creation or even music. I feel so lucky to have been led here by my energy. I feel so grateful to have discovered this. To have known myself enough to know that I will enjoy blogging, making music, and even vlogging. I feel humbled that there are people out there that read my content, vibe with it, and support me. Ps: You can support us through Patreon. I am elated and humbled. God bless. I love you. Here are more pictures.

The journey isn’t easy and nobody ever said anything in life would be. We just expect and hope that things will be but I have learned that it is better to be prepared for them not being easy. Philosophically speaking, maybe the worst thing happening is not so bad. For example, those with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, OCD, like I almost think I am, are treated through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT. One effective method that CBT employs is to have an OCD patient learn to tolerate things like dirt or not washing their hands or whatever it is that triggers them to repeatedly try and clean up. In that sense, when the worst happens and they get their hands dirty or tolerate the dirt, be it on their hands or wherever, they learn to overcome the OCD. In the same way, maybe the worst happening is not that bad. As with everything, life is all about taking a chance.

Read the Taking a Chance article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/motivation/taking-a-chance/

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Things Fall Apart

I read a book called ‘Things Fall Apart’ by Chinua Achebe and to me what I took from the book is the fact that nothing is guaranteed and despite everything, one day it can all be taken away. Think of how precious life is. Think of all the stories we hear and read about on the news about people who have lost their lives, loved ones, or livelihoods. Nothing is given. That is the only fundamental truth of life. Nothing is guaranteed. That motivates me to work even harder. To get my content out there. Follow me on Instagram @daviemania for amazing photos and stories.

 

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It motivates me to vibe with people who are on the same wavelength. To protect my energy. To love myself. To love my life. To be whole. You can only achieve that when you learn that only you will fight for you like your life depends on it. Honestly, because it does. If you don’t then you may as well suffer what I call ‘the pain of silence‘.

Read The Pain of Silence article below.

The Pain of Silence

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Only you will love you as hard as you would like to be loved. Only you will have your own back as much as you would like. Only you have control over your happiness and your destiny. Nobody else will get you like you get yourself. Nobody will see your dream as clearly. Nobody will feel the pain of becoming as deeply. Nobody. Only you. It is only you that can also fight your anxieties. As such, get out there and be the best version of yourself. Fight for what you want and I’d say be willing to die trying if that is how much it will take to get what you want. Be a lion. Be brave. Roar and let the earth shake. After all, we all need to shake it sometime. No wonder McDonald’s is out of milkshakes in the U.K. We shake it and as lovers of milk, deplete McDonald’s’ milkshakes. Inspiring.

Read the Bravery article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/culture/bravery/

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The 1000 Portraits Project

The ‘1000 Portraits Project’ is still ongoing. It is a David Mania Photography project where I seek to take 1000 portraits or portraits of 1000 people. The project is open and you can join by contacting us and arranging a photoshoot with me where I can take your portraits or you take mine. Feel free to reach out. It is an amazing project and God willing, we will present it in a gallery somewhere in the not too distant future. Here are my entries for the 1000 Portraits project for the ‘Becoming’ photoshoot.

The Pain of Silence

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The Pain of Silence

In life it is always wise to express oneself respectfully, especially to say and make clear what it is that you want. The pain of silence is literally the pain one undergoes when they are afraid of and do not say what they want or go after their dreams. If you want something, and I’d say someone, please make it crystal clear. Express yourself and do it respectfully. The way you communicate is very important and could be the difference between success and a lost chance.

Lost Chance

Do not end up bottling up pain because you were afraid, for whatever reason, to express your desires and wants. I don’t think it is fair to yourself or to others to be holding a grudge with someone, who you probably would have liked to date or be a special someone to, when you did not express your desire to be with them. It is so sad that sometimes people feel that they are not able to say they like someone and may end up in a situation where they are bitter or sad and show indifference to the person yet they had not made their wants known.

Life’s Too Short

Life is too short to sit by the wayside and watch someone you like get taken by someone else out of fear or shyness or whatever it is that could be holding you back. Go out there, talk to the person, let them know that they fascinate you and regardless of whether they accept your advances or not, at least you will have peace knowing that you tried. I would personally rather undergo the pain of rejection than that of not knowing whether this person could have felt the same or given me a chance.

Shoot Your Shot
Shoot your shot! You never know.

Life is too short to not know whether you can achieve something by way of not trying. Try. Go out there and give it your best shot. As the saying goes “shoot your shot.” You never know. Your crush may be feeling the same way about you. They may also be shy or afraid of how you will react. As such, it is upon you to break the ice, take the chance or take one for the team, and ask them out. If you fail to do so, then the both of you will be like fossils frozen in ice for all eternity.

Be Clear About What You Want

Every time you feel that you really want something in life, or someone, make your desires and intentions known. Tell them “hey, I like your style. I don’t know about you, but I would love to take you out for a coffee.” Simple. You could literally google a saucy pickup line and an interesting one I hope, and memorize it and go say hi to your crush. Otherwise, you will have a crush that has no idea about it and they will walk around feeling not special since you denied them the opportunity to feel special.

Every crush that I never said hi to is still a mystery to me today and it feels bad that I did not say a thing. Even though I wouldn’t say I outright regret not saying anything, I feel sad that I could not conjure up the courage to say hi. Just a simple hi. Do yourself and that person you are crushing on a favor and swallow the bitter pill and take the risk. Say hi. Tell them that every day you see them is a good day. Tell them that they have a killer smile. A smile so good it makes the sun blush. You know?

Be Clear About What You Want
Be clear about what you want. Nobody ever really gets what they don’t say they want.

Go After What You Want

It is very important that you learn to express yourself clearly and also to go after what you want. Nothing in life is handed out to you. You have to go out there and make an effort. You have to strive to succeed and be tough enough to ride the wave. Life is a rodeo so strap up, get your boots on, bring your cowboy hat, and let’s face the raging bull that is life. No one is handed matador status. You have to be out there in the arena risking it to get what you need and to become a star, a fighter, a Viking. Empires are not built by those who give in to fear. Great art is not conjured by those who fear their imagination. Greatness is sought and fought for. There is no shortcut to a good life or happiness. You have to be on the ground getting your hands dirty to get where you need to go. A big part of getting there is honing your communication skills.

Read the Lost Communication article below.

https://maniainc.com/home/culture/lost-communication/

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Manage Your Expectations

Now, you have mastered the courage and said hi to your crush. Please do not expect them to outrightly fall in love with you too. Ease into it. Get to know each other better. Spend some time together. Go out, have fun and learn more about each other. You saying hi is only the first step. Think of it as ignition, ‘the spark’ as it is referred to. It’s upon the both of you to now get the ball rolling and vibe. I can assure you if you are patient enough and if you understand that they will not just leave their boyfriend or girlfriend for you, then you have a chance.

Manage Your Expectations
Manage your expectations. Every chance you take is an acceptance of risk.

Everyone is at a particular point in their lives. Do not expect that you will enter someone’s life and immediately they will leave everything and everyone behind to create a spot for you. Accept that you two could end up as just friends. That is the risk. It is the price or the cost of doing business. Say hi but remember that it could just end up as a bestie thing. There is nothing wrong with that and if you manage your expectations, then you are more likely to be overwhelmed and not disappointed. Best of luck.